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Comment on Self Revelation by alan davey

alan davey — Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:44:01 +0000

Hi Tim, Thanks for your comments on my blog. I appreciate all of them. Yes, you are right, there is an invitation to go deeper with my mother’s passing. I hope to be able to do that work—and you are correct ‘being Irish’ is no excuse for procrastination!

Comment on Self Revelation by Tim Gurley

Tim Gurley — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 16:20:07 +0000

Feel, write,acknowledge the loss, go deep,your mother has left you a gift in your pain and loss. Only you can choose to accept it.
Remember, you are not alone, God, will go into that wound with you.
It’s about allowing it ” the feelings” to happen. Grief is not for sissy’s, are real men break just like all human’s, Irish or not.

Comment on Dear Elsie by Steve L.

Steve L. — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 21:26:51 +0000

Nice.

Comment on Happy Birthday, Dad! by Natalie

Natalie — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 15:30:37 +0000

Thanks for posting this-it was a helpful read for me as I consider what to do with my own memories of gram, grandpa’s hurt, your experience as their son…and the concept of attachment. Much to ponder

Comment on Happy Birthday, Dad! by Steve L.

Steve L. — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:05:58 +0000

I remember the passing of my Mother over twenty years gone by now. My Father, who like Jim, was lost for awhile. His grief and loneliness took him away from us for awhile but in his own way he found a higher power and he came back to us.

Now my Father has passed and the sadness still comes and I miss him. But then I think back to my Mothers passing and realize there is a different grief that comes from losing a soul mate to losing a parent. We know that our parents are going to pass eventually and we accept it. So my grief is there but not overwhelming. Now if it was my wife Darlene, I am not sure where I would be. I probably would still be there, in that dark place, missing the love of my life.

Comment on Happy Birthday, Dad! by Tim Gurley

Tim Gurley — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 16:18:35 +0000

Alan, I have experienced this grief of attachment, and assure you that none of us are completely free of it or ” codependency”.
At 71 my father was diagnosed with cancer and the grief was quite brutal.
A friend suggested I write a letter to my father, which turned out ,after much prayer, to be a gratitude list of all that I think could of to thank my father for.
Everything from baseball gloves to just being there when I called.
Several pages, I gave it to him for fathers day. It was a loose paper folded in a card, he set it aside.
I had assumed he read it, with never a comment about it. It was painful at first but, I let it go.
Several months later, he called me, he was going thru all his papers preparing to die. He was in tears, and so thankful.
I was blown away, and so was a lot of the attachment.
After he passed, I could see the attachments of my brothers and the pain they experienced was so much greater than what I was experiencing, sure I grieved, but what a difference prayer and action make.

May Love have it’s way with you , Tim

Comment on A Visit From Roy by Natalie

Natalie — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 03:14:34 +0000

As I head back into another week of school and feel tempted to focus on my own fatigue, I am grateful for this posting-a poignant reminder to offer love and care…because we all need it so badly.

Comment on A Visit From Roy by Tim Gurley

Tim Gurley — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 15:52:29 +0000

What an awesome gift we receive from God, once our hearts have been opened.
It’s so amazing how every moment in daily living becomes Sacred.
Thank’s for sharing,
Tim

Comment on The Power of Entrainment by Tim Gurley

Tim Gurley — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 15:42:07 +0000

I think this entrainment is best described in my experience as the “Holy Spirit”
May Love have it’s way with you,
Tim

Comment on Coronation Day by Lynda McHardy

Lynda McHardy — Sun, 23 Oct 2011 02:48:36 +0000

Alan…I was drawn to the site tonight and am saddened to read about your Mom….you were a good son….and you will be rewarded by seeing her again, yes listen for the cathedral gong….you will no doubt hear more of them now as a calling out to you. See you soon, peace.